So its you... Naw, its the Snow in my Eyes

I am walking in the shade, looking at trinkets at the trade show somewhere in Georgia. Can't really recall what city, but I see a lot of signs with peaches so I take it that I am there. As I shuffle around other viewers, I see some crystal jewelry that catches my eye. There is one that is a deep pink, something like raspberry lemonade on a hot summers night. I bend over to look at it, and I feel someone's hands grab my waist. 

They were familiar hands, hands that have never seen a manicure bowl, but soft enough to be familiar with baby oil... Since I knew no one that lived in the peach state anymore - most of them were on deployment or been transferred to another duty station, I cautiously turn around and all I seen was tattoos and dark, Godiva chocolate arms. When I look up, the mysterious man that carried his Creed cologne with his demeanor then grabbed my face and looked me in my eyes as if I was the last piece of rib on the bar-b-que. He licked his lips and said...

DAMN NOAH GET OFF OF ME!!! Yes, my dog is a hater - he woke my ass up. And yaw know I tried falling back to sleep so I can finish that dream... It was too damn late! So yes, that was the last piece of action I have had in a while... Well does that even count? Anywho, let me ask you guys and gals... is it the holidays that make folks want to be all booed up... is that natural? I refuse to be anyone's holiday relationship, but I am not gonna lie, it sounds tempting.

I think because you see so many parties with the husbands and the wives, significant others, etc that you swore that your co-workers/associates didn't have or mention the entire 11 months prior to. Maybe someone has stolen my rent a boo concept already!! So let me know, would you be someone's other half for the holidays then get the peace sign after Valentines day?

Damn... yea thats it, just DAMN

So before anyone goes freaking out... this post isn't all extra depressing. Well not yet.

I haven't really been as thankful as I should be for everything I have, haven't had yet, and for what I thought I wanted and found out it wasn't all that. 2011 has been a hell of a year, and I really didn't have to be here, but my higher being felt the need to let the world bask in my neurotic greatness so I should be happy right?

I am... but I desire more!

I guess I feel that I don't do enough to get to where I want to be... Granted its hard when your working full time and finishing up a Masters program and a Certificate program, its hard not to want to crawl in your bed after work/school and say go away world! But I think its an excuse that I use to not do more... Am I being too hard on myself or do I just know better? Its getting to the point where I am not interested in school anymore. What can I do to help with burn out cause that is what I am feeling like? Let me know if any of you have had that same feeling.

Do Dreams Really Come True?

Good evening/morning everyone...

So turning 25 (haha) wasn't as bad as I thought it would be... I had a blast on the east coast for my national holiday and I don't necessarily hate  dislike work everyday. Just every 3 to 5 days. I'm still pushing thru grad school, and I am enjoying my certificate program work. I even rescued an American Eskimo from the humane shelter in Seattle. Hell, I am even working on Operation East Coast and looks like something might POP OFF! BUT... something happened this evening that has me going...

While cruising on the VH1 website looking at the cast of Love and Hip Hop, I was reading the bio's of these women. And I started to get pissed off. Why you ask? Well I will share a secret with you guys... I always envisioned myself in-front or behind the screens of entertainment. I go into Swarovski (which is my guilty pleasure) and I look at a lot of the pieces and wonder WTF designed some of this shit. Meaning I have ideas of what pieces should be. I have ideas of what people should wear depending on their body shape. Yaw see where I'm going with this. But then the practical me starts to talk...

"Cyn, you know there is a recession going on" ... "But you don't know anyone to start designing/styling/acting"... etc. And to be quite honest, I think I am capable of doing anything I want because I am just that talented. Just show me a few times and I am good to go... But is it too late for me to pursue my dreams? Should I just stick to what I know and stay working in gubment/corp America? Am I being a punk? I'm so perplexed... I guess ill go to sleep on this one. Has anyone have this same problem? Speak to me people!!!

Damn, my bday is coming up...

So I try to keep my post light right...

Well not today. I have been a lil bit of a Debbie Downer lately cause I don't have my luxury SUV, or a Boo on Occasion with the serious PIPE, and I am stuck in a job that I'm OVERLY QUALIFIED for (and not making enough $$ for it). I love my classes but I'm sick of school. And as much as I have learned to appreciate Seattle, hum yea its time for me to go somewhere else. I am in limbo and that shit sucks like an ice cube on a warm summer day that is covered with fire ants. Yea I really took it there.

 A lot of folks are probably saying "well at least you have this, etc". Yes I am very blessed on the position I am in as far as financially especially with these economic issues. But not all money is good money. I have had breakdowns lately and that ish is not healthy. I have been so perturbed that I have allowed the good sense I did have in me to be washed away.  I see certain friends that are in a better situation and I am like "well WTF"? I know, we should not compare to others, but I be damned if the shit doesn't make me feel a certain way. Like what the hell am I doing to not make it? 

So I keep talking to baby Jesus asking him to get me thru this time. I keep reading my spiritual books and I start vacation two on Monday. hopefully I feel better by next Saturday (yes that is my national holiday). If not, I will probably be on the blog drunk crying my sorrows away. Let me know readers, have you ever been in a similar position about life?

Simple Minded People

So I frequent other people's blogs for inspiration... And I came across a blog about views on Domestic Violence. This blogger has been in a violent relationship and just basically sees after being abused for so long, your are no longer the victim, but just plain stupid. Most folks went in on her, maybe one or two people agreed. But what really bugged me the most is that there was so many double negatives in these comments it was like UGH...

What do I mean by double negatives???

So if you do not agree on someone's viewpoint, that's fine and dandy. There are ways of discussing disagree to agree. But these folks were just plain out RUDE. Have we as adults forgot how to eloquently state their dislike with a particular viewpoint and give a better suggestion?

I believe so...

What I guess bothers me the most is those who comment and are 10 times more harsh in replies to a certain topic. Yet, you follow these people and expect to always have the politically correct thought process to every subject? Well why in the hell would you follow them in the first place? I guess I'm tired of the sugar coating folks want you to give them. If you want something sweet, go to the cheesecake factory!!!

I am in various groups in Facebook and Twitter, and instead of debating, folks want to PUSH their morals down your throat. And that erks me to no freaking end. When you are blogging, you really don't have guidelines unless you are threatening to kill folks (and shit). Before I read this blog, I was discussing how people are one minded-especially in the damn United States. A lot of the conflicts in the foreign countries, debt issues, and U.S. policies would be solved if not welcomed with mutual arms if folks took the time to listen instead of abandoning ideas because its not that persons absolute!!!

I should be asleep right now, but this just bothers me to no end (hence why there are no pictures in this post). Please tell me folks, what are your pet peeves when sharing/collaborating ideas and/or thoughts to others!

What am I doing wrong???

So I am at home right now, suppose to be at work. I'll go after my work out  business is handled. But before I even do all that, I need to ask yaw a question out there. What am I doing wrong???

What do you mean? Well I will go into details about two recent interactions with random men and why exactly they did not go well.

(Disclaimer- I give men code names prior to me referring to them by their real names. I can't remember most of yesterday, so why remember, or try to, remember a mans name if he will not be in my life for longer than 2 to 5 weeks. If he makes it that far, I then use his real name)

PR

About two weeks ago, I went to a jazz club in _____, WA. I had been there before and I always enjoy the coziness of the club and the quality of the live music and the deejaying abilities as well. I was pretty spiffy if I do say so myself, and the gentleman at the door was giving me all types of compliments. I brushed it off cause well, that is what most folks who work the entry do.  I meet my company in there and they decide to leave (cause I got there hella late-as always). So I stayed and he (doorman-or we will now start to refer him as PR because of his heritage) comes up and chit chats with me. Okay so far so good... Oh did I tell yaw he was fine as WINE...

We go out to breakfast after the club closes, which is fine by me. But he asked if I could drive. Like an idiot I said sure, thinking maybe something was wrong with his car. We get to the restaurant, and have decent conversation-till some events happened and it was pretty much time to go home ;). So I am dropping him off and I ask about the status of his vehicle-he had a DUI. Okay that's fine, shit happens. But I know three people who have had DUI in WA state, and still have a car but had to blow in the breathalyzer thing before it starts. He lived with roommates so he had to go thru the back alley (strange cause its like 4am). So clearly in the back of my head I am thinking somethin aint right, but I didn't wanna jump the gun.

*LADIES, WHEN YOU FEEL SOMETHING IS OFF, IT REALLY IS-FOLLOW YOUR GUT*

Later that week, we talk and I realize, we have nothing but LUST in common. The conversations sucked. And all he wanted to talk about was when we were gonna smang it (smash it and bang it, please refer to the Smang it video). And while I can admit, there are people I can accept having a FWB, he wasn't it. Furthermore, how are you 10 yrs older than me and just aren't halfway established. That week were multiple calls- and one night 4 calls from 10pm to 01am which I didn't answer cause it just wasn't really worth it. I eventually answered one of the numerous calls placed during the day and told him we would not be having sex at this moment but if he wants to talk about other things and go out we can... Yea I got the phone hung up on me. LOL

Back to the Motherlands

As I was leaving Coldstone Ice cream, a guy came up to my car (and it was dark), and I almost ran him over. Needless to say, we go out to eat a few days later. I would call it a date, but it just wouldn't do the story justice.

I will make it short... Old Country Buffet, Long & Short term goals, inquiring about my residence and finally, lying about his age. Needless to say that the fact that he tried to give me a history lesson on Africa after I mistakenly used the term states instead of countries pissed me the fuck off. And yes, I reminded him i'm working on my masters while he is working on his AA. And after all of that, he says he doesn't like OCB but he didn't want me to drive long distance (the place we were at was 9 miles from my home-he should of thought about that shit earlier). Needless to say there will be no future with him and he doesn't get the fact that I told him im not interested.

My real problem lies with the fact I keep running into these clusterfuckbuckets (yea I made that word up) of men. I have been told if you behave a certain way, you attract a type of man. Well Ive tried that and the ish don't work. I have never been desperate and wont start now, but I am just really wondering about if my life is truly doomed and I will die alone with a great hair do and finally a flat stomach?

Do I allow or attract psychos? I mean really. And hell, I don't even want to be booed up, I just want a part time companion of the male species that lives no more than two hrs from me.

Hello... Good Evening!

Hi everyone,

Yes, I know, where in the hell have I been...

Well, besides finishing the summer semester (with a 4.0 by the way) and personal issues, I have not been able to focus on the blog like I want to. SO with that, just wanted to let you guys know I will be back doing blogs... Matter of fact I will be doing one tonight I think. After watching Kick Ass...

But in the meanwhile, have you guys ever felt like nothing is going right in your life, yet you feel as if something is gonna change for the better??? That's what I been feeling like as of late. Another reason for me not to blog. Now that I think about it, I have motivation to do everything else, but I just took the lazy route this time. How do you get out of this funk (besides talking to your higher being)? Suggestions would be greatly appreciated yaw!

The Thirst

I know we have had some extreme weather the past few weeks within the U.S. But my mind is still boggled as far as the level of dehydration among my peers in 2011. When I mean dehydration or better known as thirst, it is the level of desperation that appears on a person who converses with a potential fuck love interest. I know that some may say "well, maybe that person is really interested in you" etc. There is a fine line between interested and just plain ole thirst. I would like to point out some differences and other indicators that will make you determine if this person is thirsty or interested in the pursuit.

1. They tell you that they are different (on the first meeting): Rather it be conversing about jobs, interests, positions in bed, be aware of those who say they are different and make a point of it. If we are just talking, getting to know one another, it shouldn't be an issue if your different because we (men and women) will see it.  Even if its just a jump-off, we wouldn't give a damn then if your different because our intention is not to boo you up. Eluding too many times that your "not lame" or "from down south" or "been around the world" doesn't mean that you are exempted from not being about shit. Again, the proof is in the pudding, and you haven't even given me the damn spoon yet. 
2. They are too quick to tell you they are a freak: Now this even applies to the random hook up's (to whomever still does that these days). Sometimes its not looks cause everyone looks the same in the dark that seduces people. Many times its that conversation piece that hooks line and sinker. Maybe its the thrill of a one night stand. Or hell, you just like how they carry themselves, so you see a future friendship/relationship with this person. Like many others, I do not need to know how you like to eat Copper River salmon. At least not within the first damn 30 min. This shows that not only are you quick to hop on the first thing that has a heartbeat, but lets question where the eff your grown up parts been???
3. Invites themselves to your house before you can: I can not stress this enough. I don't care if you live by yourself, roommates, bebe's kids, ect. Your place of residence is your sanctuary. No matter how crazy it may be, you lay your head there, you are familiar with the place. Don't you DARE invite yourself saying "I bet you want some company"... BITCH no the hell I don't. How rude is that to just invite yourself and you don't know this other person like that. Your invading personal space just cause ur ass is needy... I say GTFOH!
4. Soliciting with services (I should of had this shit as #3): (scenario) Him: girl you know I can cook, let me cook for you tonight at your house. Her: Hum I don't eat everyone's cooking and lets save that for another day. Him: but I wanna get to know you better. Her: we can do that like were doing now, and you don't know what I like-or if I have eaten already? (is this mofo ready to cook for # of people in my house since he wanna act fancy and invade my territory). Ladies and men who do this, know that some (if not all) are catching on to this move. I have had a many of friends (bless their hearts) that have let someone come to their home after one meeting or same day (yaw, that shit ain't safe), let them cook for you, and they wanna walk around and snoop or worse, be naked in your place that YOU PAY BILLS ON. You know, that ain't the way to a persons heart. That's the quickest way to get cursed out. What in the hell did you think I was doing before meeting you? Starving? Now later on down the line, yes, cooking for someone is nice. But you really wanna put blood, sweat and tears into a meal for someone you really don't know? I'd watch out if they put chicken blood in your shit.

Honorable Mention: The material posessions they have...key word THEY. And half the time, they can't afford that shit!

I have a lot more, but I am tired as hell. The moral of the story is that being needy right from jump isn't cute unless your a pimp name slickback looking for a new whore.  Maybe the flow of testosterone has made my views jaded, but I'm pretty sure that it hasn't. If you have any other things I should add on or comments, please feel free to post.

Male Order Housekeeper Guide???

So something else that has been bothering me for a while is the whole "lack of males" phenomenon. Prior to me getting bent out of shape, I believe that this is some bullshit. AND what I mean by bullshit, I mean that there are men EVERYWHERE, who are looking for someone to complete them, just like females. But due to a strict checklist, many females are missing out (and males too-some of yaw are more so matriculate than we are...SMH). ANYWHO, I digress. Let me share a story with you...

So I went on a date about a week ago. It was OK. He was younger , and the volume of calls, text messages, etc. got on my last damn nerve. I explained to him it was not necessary and that he needs to lay off. Within that date, he asked the QUESTION to why I am single (as if its not a choice anymore or some shit). I tell him and he then says "OK lets date now". I not only told him hell to the naw (in my Whitney Crackhead Stance), but that he REALLY NEEDS TO CHILL OUT. Since then, I have had to inform him in a stern-like tone that he is not my boo and needs to chill the fuck out. I apologize  in advance for so many curse words, but flashbacks get me annoyed....This leads me to my point...

I have no issues meeting different men. As a plus size, African American (and some other ish) in Seattle, WA, I get approached by ALL TYPES OF MEN. They might not be what I'm looking for, but hey, noting wrong with friends associates in high and low places right (I make that emphasis cause everyone tends to believe that its one issue or another...shit try smiling)? I believe that too many of us (and I mean females, Blacks, Whites, Hispanics, Asians, all of yaw) that are dismissing some men due to looks alone. Granted, these men need be attractive just a lil bit, but many are scared of what their fam and friends will say. It took me a while, but it shocks the hell of my friends and associates when I tell them I have been almost all over the color spectrum. I have to try something once, then again to see if I really like it... (insider). ANYWHO, I think as women (and some men), we are so caught up on finding "Mr./Mrs. Checklist" that we forget we are not perfect, and that sometimes what we think we want, is not what is good for us. It feels good at first, but its that newness that Eric Robertson sings about...

Well it?s called the newness, but you already knew this

Don?t hear me rhyme but I just had dilute this

Man it?s the lovin, she sittin? at the oven,
Makin me some waffles, she tryin to get the title
More than likely, she?ll probably be wifey
If she gotta have it & hell, I?m Spike Lee
And I?m there nightly I?m her midnight marauder
Matter of fact got a text, just said to call her
If I had the money man I would just spoil her
So I give her kisses and, treat her like the missus man
Take her out on the night town do the runnin man
Kid n play, do the wop, til all the music stop
Go off to IHOP, talk in the parking lot
Oh here come the cops tellin us to scram
Damn, I just grab her hand, let?s go
Here we go, DMC and this litte fan
And the band?s in the van, we on the road again
And oh man I was bout to finish up the story
Chick got me more whipped than Denzel in Glory
Brett called me up like ?Yo, yo girl is on Maury? (huh?)
Guess it?s poor me, guess it?s poor me
Guess it?s poor me, til the newness comes

Anywho I digress. Yaw get what I'm saying. Too many folks trying to jump that broom, and ain't even swept under the rug. What happened to just dating? Is it such a big deal to have "ownership" of someone just to say that shit? I can tell you, besides youngin mentioned above, I have had 4 others act that way and ain't even seen the platinum stuff. So I know that its not necessarily impossible. I read an article from an author I can't think of right now cause I'm still intoxicated (hell its Saturday, can I breathe). And she suggested just dating everyone you feel comfortable with-or at least going on one date with someone you feel is sane and you have enough ammo  pepper spray for. You learn what you like and don't like, etc. It can be an awarding experience for you as well. But enough about me, have you had same experiences? Is there something you desire in a mate that isn't being displayed in today's world? SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!!! And happy Memorial Day Weekend to my fellow vets. Everyone else, send me a plate of food OK?

FEAR.. Forgetting Everything Anyone Revised

So first off... I know I have a few people who are gonna curse me the hell out for taking so long. I apologize. For I don't have a down packed schedule of posts. And after June 13th, shits gonna be real (start of grad school-so NOT excited). Anywho, I want to cover this first because this is something I have been dealing with for all my life, and its not at a normal percentage.

I have a fear of failure... many people might say that many people have that same fear, but its so serious at times, I don't go to sleep for days. Or at least get maybe two to three hours of sleep (I don't like taking my anxiety pills). I guess its because I have seen certain members of my family become dependent on others and I vowed that I will never be that way. Which probably explains my current relationship situation stats, etc. That's for another post. Anywho, moving on...

When I was younger, I was staying at my aunts house due to some family issues. But when I seen how she became more than what her environment programmed her to be. I was inspired. I never told anyone this, but I think this is what truly lead me to go to the Navy, and to get the hell away from Milwaukee at the time. I wanted the big house, the nice luxury car prior to 40, etc. I created a "to do before God takes me out" list and the following was my top priorities:

1. Become a Cheerleader by Sophomore year of HS
2. Graduate from college
3. Join a sorority
4. Become part of the government
5. Own a luxury foreign made car prior to 30

Most of these objectives have been met, and I guess I am becoming worried that the last one (not in numerical order BTW) will not be fulfilled due to eff ups changes in the economy and my current job position. But that's besides the point. I have a chance to finish my graduate degree early (mind you, I never thought about graduate school till just recently). But I'm scared or rather have a great deal of FEAR because of what I will be giving up (MY JOB). I did this whole life changing ish before when I left the military. And I will be honest and say I am happy with my choice, but that was in 2008 and the job market was STABLE. I would have to re-locate, go somewhere close to home but so far away, make new friends, etc. Its crazy, cause if I got a job overseas or to Washington D.C. (my ultimate destination), I would act like Pookie off of Menace 2 Society and sell EVERYTHING and go ( at least I think its Menace 2 society, I'm sipping my McDonald's Strawberry Lemonade w/ 100 proof Belviedere vodka, so I might be a lil messy with grammar, memories--and shit). But its because I will be doing something totally 360°, I am scared of the unknown I suppose. I don't want to be like the typical student (no offense) that can't get a job or not smart enough to finish, etc. I never want to have to have anyone help me. Although I give no afterthought to help those around me. I guess I figure I have always been the strong one and I am not suppose to have FEAR in my life. And it couldn't be any more of the opposite. I can't go into any more specifics. But I will say, I will be out of my comfort zone. And I know I need it, I really do. BUT, the struggle, I will say, is what is scaring the shit out of me. Can you feel my pain? Not same situation, but just something that is different. Something that is of the unknown? How do you deal? Do you have folks make negative comments when you share (oh I knew I forgot something on this post)? Is there a time limit to when you should follow your dreams?

What Had Happen Was...My ASS!! The Lack of Responsibility in Today's Culture

Good evening to you all... Thank you for the responses from my first blog session. As I type, I can not explain how much this means to me. I am starting to find my niche in this big shopping mall called life, and I am excited to see what sales and items I may find along the way!!! Anyways, I digress... I want to discuss something that has always bothered me ever since growing up. And I am starting to see a trend as I get older which kind of pisses me off cause people are taking advantage of others and situations because of it. Let me explain...

As I was preparing for my personal "Last day of happy hour martini's and shit A.K.A. the rapture" party, I was reading this article about 4Loco blamed in death of 15yr old boy. Now many of us who are alcohol consumers are familiar with this fruity malt beverage that is very powerful to many due to the mixture of liquor and caffeine. Many legislators have banned this product from consumption in certain states because of the incidents that have arisen from students drinking the product THE WRONG WAY. What I mean is that they have consumed so much of this drink, they black out, run butt necked (yes necked not naked), etc. But as young as I can remember, there have always been warning signs and caution notices in the media, school, bars, at your aunt's house during the summer time , and whatnot about the consumption of alcohol. There have been many people who fail to take these warnings into consideration, do some stupid Sugar Honey Iced Tea and then want to blame the manufacture for the ending result. Sadly, this story that I mentioned above ended up in death, and the parents are now suing the makers because of their "marketing tactics".  Now I do feel sorry that there has been a life that was lost but just looking at the title, can you point out what is the first thing wrong with this... (ill give you a hint... the drinking age in the U.S. is 21). And here goes my rant...

How dare you try to sue the makers of this product when your child was underage to begin with? Exactly "where they do that at"? I would think you would start off with suing the damn store that sold them (as in the victim and his friends) the drink? Lets start off with the basics. In the article (because I know a lot of yaw will not read it...SMH), the parent's lawyer is claiming because of the marketing scheme that it misleads people... the PLUCK it doesn't. Again, the drinking age is 21. Most 21yr olds can read (I would hope so). So with any product, people know what they are getting themselves into. And to blame others for the mistakes people make just burns my soul!!! And this is where this leads up to... The lack of responsibility that folks today have for their actions. Let me explain...

We all know that as humans, we are far from perfect. We are expected to make mistakes and learn from them in the process so we can do better as people and lead by example. What I don't get is why so many people make the same damn mistakes and want to blame everyone else but themselves? I can admit when I have effed up. Others can as well. But there needs to be a damn cut off line or some shit cause folks are doing the most with their screw-ups. I was talking to my homefry back at home, and she was telling me how x,y and z always asking for some damn money cause they can't manage theirs. And I don't mean like $15, $20 bucks...I'm talking damn rent money? These same people can be found later on that week on your local Facebook club page at a major metropolitan city near you. Folks, its time to own up to your shit and FIGURE IT OUT! I blame the government... yes I know, very random right. But the way that people have in the past been able to rely on government programs and NOT TRYING to do anything else for themselves starts the trend of absentee adults in society. Again, there are folks who have fallen down on their luck, and this is what federal and state programs should be for. But I know some folks on government assistance, and driving on damn 22's while I am rolling on my alloy wheels! Dem my damn taxes that got your 2011 Charger subin (as in Sub Woofers). We got folks who are defaulting on their mortgages on purpose so they can buy a new house and chunk up the deuces to other homes. People mad at their baby mothers/fathers for not being in their child's life, yet getting pregnant/impregnating the same people thinking that another child might make that person change... GTFOH (get the fudge outta here- I will use this term a lot).

What happened to holding people at a higher standard these days? Someone told me that its my fault for expecting the most out of people due to the fact, many people really ain't about Sugar Honey Iced Tea. But are we in a way allowing people who eff up royally to continue this trend? When do we start confronting people about themselves? I think that its a way of showing that you care. But I know a lot of people are just quick to give these people smog coming from the emission of your car. Its OK to execute this practice at work (well depending on where you work, cause the government...ill leave it alone). Anywho, I am too tired and tipsy from my date to continue this rant. Please let me know how you feel about people and the tolerance for people's bull s*** in their personal and professional life. And again, spread the word about the blog!!! Tootles

First Blog Post-Welcome and More

Good afternoon to all of you reading this!!! Hoping your getting everything prepared for the last day on earth as we know it (insert sarcasm)!!!

I guess this would be the part where I talk about who I am and all that jazz. But I have more pressing matters at hand. Hopefully, all of the readers will enjoy this blog and comment, give suggestions, etc. I will say that I love to talk, and I think my friends on FB was becoming sick of me with various postings so I will say what comes to mind on here...

Anywho, I would like to start off with a question. In the media lately, there are an abundance of extra-martial affairs that we seem to be bombarded informed of. And it seems that the trend is that the man (some Hollywood type cat) is discovered to be cheating on the unknowing wife. From movie stars, sports figures, politicians, etc, for every couple getting married, there is another breaking up. And while that shits sad and whatnot, its pretty much common in today's society. The latest scandal is with former California Governor and Hollywood actor The Cheatanator Arnold Schwarzenegger and Kennedy Dynasty former NBC correspondent Maria Shriver. Been married for 25 years and had some house help (she was helping quite a bit) who proved that the affectionate phrase of #hoesbewinning is true. Not only did she work for them for 20 yrs, she had a child by Arnold, had him buy a house for her and retired prior to Arnold revealing the news supposedly to Maria. And poor Maria was in shock, didn't have any knowledge of this activity and has separated from her husband. Now while this is sad, something about this sounds like some BULLSHIT. Let me explain...

Just like these big scandals (Tiger Woods, Jesse James, Newt Gingrich, etc.) happen and are circulated faster than BBQ at a block party, everyone seems to take the side of the women. Now I do not condone cheating by any means. BUT lets examine some things before we are quick to take sides:

1. Most These Women Knew That These Men Wasn't About Shit

Prior to Arnold and Maria marrying, there were accusations he was a womanizer. Whatever Tiger's ex wife's name was knew more about him that we did cause she was a nanny or something like that. Hell, I'm not sure how many women Newt was actually cheating on with his first and second wife (wait I'm lying it was with his future 3rd wife when cheated with second wife). Yaw got my drift. Too many times, either women are set on a goal that they will be able to change that man. OR he did some great showboating. Regardless, there are always signals or behavioral traits that will show that might indicate that they basically ain't about shit. I can't be any more politically correct about it. They say rumors are just that, something made up. But riddle me this, rumors usually start from some SUSPECT activity. You know believe half of what you see and nothing that you hear. But you know about the truth shall set you free... yea, being real with ones self as far as realizing that "this person (male or female) got some ain't shit characteristics" will make you seem less naive and more on your toes.

     2.  Don't You Have A Joint Bank Account-Or at Least Access To Paperwork

When Arnold brought that woman/maid/penis relieve a house, what exactly could of he had said to justify that big purchase? Yes they are millionaires and shit. But "C'mon Son"!!! And whats so cold about it is that the husband of the hired help knew damn well she didn't buy it. I know that some well off families buy nice shit for life long help, but a house... REALLY? And Maria, that wasn't a red flag?  Elin (I remember now thanks to the help of some Riesling) was so wrapped up raising those kids that she didn't mind Tiger being gone longer than expected for PGA, or whatever tournaments? SERIOUSLY? Look, IDK (I don't know) about yaw, but I love to do Sexlates (Sex + Pilates). At some point I'm gonna get a maid or family to watch my kids and surprise his ass after a tournament and attack my man (attack meaning sexually-prior to discovering he was a heaux). And I am not advocating check that phone, cause sometimes its some shit you don't wanna know or you just ain't ready for. But I know it had to be some weird text messages/phone calls at night at least once. CLEARLY, them hoes (for a better lack of terms..not heauxs, hoes) were not trained so they had to had slipped up a few times.

    3.  Woman's Intuition- Stop Ignoring it, Listen to It!

I am not about to go into some woman battle cry or start singing 4NonBlondes "Whats Up". But lets just be honest with ourselves... Every woman, black, white, bald, bleached, blind, etc. knows when something doesn't feel right. Hell, EVERYONE-Male/Female/Both/switching teams/whatever has that Keenan Ivory Waynes mailman inside of them screaming "MESSAGE". In the case of Arnold, he has been accused of improper behavior so much, he should be the poster child of "Ill Fill You Up". And what did Maria do... Stand by her husband. And you know, I have no issues with couples sticking together thru thick and thin. But you do it so many times its like a damn trend. Mia Farrow knew that Woody Allen was...hum...eccentric. Did it really take for you to discover photos, or was that the last straw? There are signs people. Attitude changes. Distance. I can go on and on (I know this from experience). So you just can't tell me that this is a blind-sight to all of these victims...really?

Personally, what I really think that happened with the Schwarzenegger-Shriver story is that the mistress/maid was tired of keeping the secret of her child's father and told Arnold that she wanted to finally tell them. I'm pretty damn sure that Maria knew (word is that the damn kid looks like him), but due to public humility wanted to keep it wrapped. Told ole girl she was done after 20 yrs and that if it got out to the public, she was throwing the deuces faster than the Lakers did to the 2011 NBA championship to the marriage. Word got out and there you have it. Whats more troublesome is that there are more mistresses coming out (which reminds me, why is it that these heauxs wait till someone else reveals their affair first...you still look slutty cause now you wanna sell your story...duh), so yaw's life was that busy that someone didn't give you a heads up? I also feel that a lot of these celebrities do the same shit. Do what you like, but the second it leaks out, were done son! Who would want to go thru a messy divorce, (depending on the person) reduced to a lower class of living, and the public all in ya beeswax?

I guess what I'm trying to say is "Stop Faking The Funk" for support from the public. Sadly our culture-well not all of us, but many- don't respect the concept of traditional marriage (I say traditional cause there are various types-we'll get into that another blog). So sorry if I say "and whats new" when I hear about another marriage ending". Hopefully things go smoothly and they remember about the kids who at the end of the day are the most important people this will effect... 

Talk to me people, let me know what your think. And thanks for reading...Tootles