Male Order Housekeeper Guide???

So something else that has been bothering me for a while is the whole "lack of males" phenomenon. Prior to me getting bent out of shape, I believe that this is some bullshit. AND what I mean by bullshit, I mean that there are men EVERYWHERE, who are looking for someone to complete them, just like females. But due to a strict checklist, many females are missing out (and males too-some of yaw are more so matriculate than we are...SMH). ANYWHO, I digress. Let me share a story with you...

So I went on a date about a week ago. It was OK. He was younger , and the volume of calls, text messages, etc. got on my last damn nerve. I explained to him it was not necessary and that he needs to lay off. Within that date, he asked the QUESTION to why I am single (as if its not a choice anymore or some shit). I tell him and he then says "OK lets date now". I not only told him hell to the naw (in my Whitney Crackhead Stance), but that he REALLY NEEDS TO CHILL OUT. Since then, I have had to inform him in a stern-like tone that he is not my boo and needs to chill the fuck out. I apologize  in advance for so many curse words, but flashbacks get me annoyed....This leads me to my point...

I have no issues meeting different men. As a plus size, African American (and some other ish) in Seattle, WA, I get approached by ALL TYPES OF MEN. They might not be what I'm looking for, but hey, noting wrong with friends associates in high and low places right (I make that emphasis cause everyone tends to believe that its one issue or another...shit try smiling)? I believe that too many of us (and I mean females, Blacks, Whites, Hispanics, Asians, all of yaw) that are dismissing some men due to looks alone. Granted, these men need be attractive just a lil bit, but many are scared of what their fam and friends will say. It took me a while, but it shocks the hell of my friends and associates when I tell them I have been almost all over the color spectrum. I have to try something once, then again to see if I really like it... (insider). ANYWHO, I think as women (and some men), we are so caught up on finding "Mr./Mrs. Checklist" that we forget we are not perfect, and that sometimes what we think we want, is not what is good for us. It feels good at first, but its that newness that Eric Robertson sings about...

Well it?s called the newness, but you already knew this

Don?t hear me rhyme but I just had dilute this

Man it?s the lovin, she sittin? at the oven,
Makin me some waffles, she tryin to get the title
More than likely, she?ll probably be wifey
If she gotta have it & hell, I?m Spike Lee
And I?m there nightly I?m her midnight marauder
Matter of fact got a text, just said to call her
If I had the money man I would just spoil her
So I give her kisses and, treat her like the missus man
Take her out on the night town do the runnin man
Kid n play, do the wop, til all the music stop
Go off to IHOP, talk in the parking lot
Oh here come the cops tellin us to scram
Damn, I just grab her hand, let?s go
Here we go, DMC and this litte fan
And the band?s in the van, we on the road again
And oh man I was bout to finish up the story
Chick got me more whipped than Denzel in Glory
Brett called me up like ?Yo, yo girl is on Maury? (huh?)
Guess it?s poor me, guess it?s poor me
Guess it?s poor me, til the newness comes

Anywho I digress. Yaw get what I'm saying. Too many folks trying to jump that broom, and ain't even swept under the rug. What happened to just dating? Is it such a big deal to have "ownership" of someone just to say that shit? I can tell you, besides youngin mentioned above, I have had 4 others act that way and ain't even seen the platinum stuff. So I know that its not necessarily impossible. I read an article from an author I can't think of right now cause I'm still intoxicated (hell its Saturday, can I breathe). And she suggested just dating everyone you feel comfortable with-or at least going on one date with someone you feel is sane and you have enough ammo  pepper spray for. You learn what you like and don't like, etc. It can be an awarding experience for you as well. But enough about me, have you had same experiences? Is there something you desire in a mate that isn't being displayed in today's world? SHARE, SHARE, SHARE!!! And happy Memorial Day Weekend to my fellow vets. Everyone else, send me a plate of food OK?